Adoption

Adoption has been on my mind for a while now....been reading about it online. It is a big step and am scared to do it. my husband and me encountered a man at the Doctor's office. This man had 2 babies in his hand and they definitely did not look like twins. He was also accompanied by an older girl who must have been 8 or 9 years of age..There were many people staring at this man because he was struggling to manage the 2 babies in his hand. After a while someone asked him how old the babies were and he said 1 was 4 1/2 months old and the other was 9 months old. I was thinking to myself how this was possible when the guy asked him the same question that was on my mind. The 9 month old was adopted and the 4 1/2 month old was born the traditional way. Seeing them that day was my AHA moment. Even though it changed the way i think, am still not sure if I will do it.
At a time when I have been seriously thinking about adoption, there was a story in the news about an American couple who adopted a boy from Russia and then rejected him because he was too violent. They sent the boy back to Russia alone with a note attached to his backpack. The boy was only 7 years old. What must have he felt flying back all alone ?? The news channel went on to say that the couple should have gone for counselling before sending the boy back. It also mentioned that this was quite common. ( http://www.cnn.com/2010/US/04/09/us.russian.adoption.return/index.html )
The channel continued this piece saying there was a ranch in Montana which dealth with violent adopted children. The children had to stay in the ranch (http://www.ranchforkids.org/ ) and go through treatment. The cost of this was U.S $ 3500/- per month per child. Parents send their adopted children who maybe violent or show signs of aggressive behaviour to this place. I was appalled looking at this.
Why adopt when you are not ready to handle it ??